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Coming up for Air

When I saw my Medical Herbalist, Dr Kitty Campion, on the 3rd and had the very deflating session (really bad results that reflected how yuk I was beginning to feel, physically and emotionally), one of the things that came up was for me to take a single Bach Flower Remedy – Black Cohosh.   It’s a bit of a doozie and is interesting that my Homoeopath, independently, came up with the same thing not so long ago.

Taking a Bach Flower Remedy

So, I started taking the Black Cohosh and proceeded to have a very down and emotional time of it in the subsequent days.  I was also coping with a phelgmy throat that had me sounding like a person on the other end of one of those 1900 numbers!

I sat smack in the middle of my misery for the rest of the week until I had a Bowen Therapy on the Friday.  By Saturday my throat had eased remarkably and my mood seemed to lift a bit as well.  Yeh team!

After reading the Flower Essence Reparatory, for me, Black Cohosh is about:

  • Addiction – yeh obvious!;
  • My and other people’s shadow side – the parts of us that are present but often we don’t like to acknowledge and often come creeping out when under stress, fatigued or triggered by some event;
  • Feeling threatened by verbal aggression which I then brood over.

I attract to myself challenging people and situations that I must learn to, and have the courage to, confront rather than retreat from.  I don’t mean confront in an in-your-face way, more just calmly saying when my boundary has been crossed.  If I can’t do that, I just play things over in my mind, stewing on it …… and the bloody thing stays with me, because, when I think about it, I still feel the hurt or the anger or whatever it is.

Note to self …. got to learn how to not store people’s aggression and my reaction to it in my body!

Coping with Verbal Aggression

Then, I saw Kitty again on Wednesday the 11th.  She had borrowed my Jon Gabriel book and saw the notes I had made as I read it.  Well, she came to the same conclusion about the anger directed at me bit and thought that we needed to get to the bottom of it.

So, she took me through a process that was only concerned with my feelings, not the actual events and the rights and wrongs of it (where the ego is king).  So, I felt the feelings and we just kept drilling down.  So much stuff came up, but something really interesting was part of it.  The first aggression I remember was when I was about 9 years old and we kids had been mucking around.  Well, Dad lost it, having told us to keep it down umpteen times, and grabbed the strap.  Anyway, I wasn’t hit or anything, but that feeling of vulnerability and of copping someone else’s rage came up in the session.  The things you remember ……..

So, it would seem that coping with over the top verbal aggression that I have not provoked is a recurring theme throughout my life.  When that happens, I internalise and, if the theory is correct, I store fat!  Interesting how it all fitted with the Black Cohosh that came up with the pendulum.

So, sorry that I haven’t been posting much lately …… everything has been a bit too raw.  Think I’m coming out the other side though – I actually woke up early for a Sunday, feeling like getting out of bed and going for a walk and doing a meditation.  Maybe the wheel has turned a bit ……….


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Review of Intro – The Gabriel Method …. post 1

Earlier this year I read and so resonated with The Gabriel Method by Jon Gabriel that I decided to use it as the thing that guided me through this journey to a healthier body.  Then, following some advice from my health professionals, I had to go on a ‘diet’ to address the Candida (plus I had advice to eat protein at every meal and drop to low carb).  Thus the first thing that Jon says about this not being a diet was changed in my eyes.

So, I stumbled along, lost 12 Kg really quickly and then stayed 90Kg for the next 6 weeks.  I needed something to focus me again.

My plan is to work my way through The Gabriel Method, reviewing each chapter and working with the information within it.  You are welcome to join me in what will be a discovery of some of the emotional triggers of my lifestyle (eating and activity).  Where I’ve quoted or paraphrased Jon, I will put the text in italics, with the page reference.   Jon Gabriel is also aware of what I am doing here and has offered to help in any way he can – thanks Jon.

Oh man, I just had to laugh!

As I was going through this chapter looking at the parts I had highlighted, the first thing on pages xiii-xiv that hit me was the similarity to what I’m going through right now.  Jon said he followed diets, losing weight quickly initially, then hitting a plateau, only to find that the diet was being maintained just to maintain the current weight (not lose it)!

For me, that is where the feeling of being punished kicks in big time.

Then, there was Jon’s observation that his period of dieting, of doing without, did not help with food cravings – they just got worse.  Then feeling dejected and disappointed, a BINGE would result and you guessed it ………. weight gain!

I felt this comment, particularly feeling ‘like a failure’ when unable to control food cravings and succumbing to them.  Words like ‘all you need is willpower’ resonating in my ears from thin people that just compounded a low self-esteem / self body image.

Why Does My Body Want to be Fat?

On page xv, Jon said that the problem was not his body, but a lack of understanding of how to operate it.  Why did it want to be fat? Why were efforts to force it to be a certain way not working? To quote him … “not only does dieting not work, but if your body already wants to be fat, dieting will only make it want to be fatter”.

This comment struck a chord as i thought about my yo-yo dieting.  Lose 5 Kg. Put on 5 Kg.  Lose 3 Kg.  Put on 4 Kg.  Depressing!

Food Battles and Binges

Jon “hated being so obsessed with food and treating every hunger signal as a battle I had to fight” (page xv).

This is so true! I am so over thinking about food and food choices and then beating myself up when I make a bad choice, which often leads to a BINGE (you know, you’ve already stuffed up, so …. stuff it – yep in my mouth!).

Do What Thin People Do …

On page xvi, Jon say that he “also realised that a lot of other people don’t count what they eat.  They pay no attention to what they’re eating and yet they never gain a kilo”.  Jon calls these ‘naturally thin’ people and they are people who do not have a dysfunctional relationship with food…… no good versus bad day labels, no foods that are taboo, no agonising over food choices.  “They simply eat when they’re hungry and that’s that – end of story”.

So, Jon made a choice to start living like a naturally thin person.  He chose to eat what he wanted, when he wanted it, but with one significant difference …… he made sure that he added certain foods that he knew had nutrients his body needed in a form that could be digested and assimilated.

I think that is a key thing from a mental perspective too – he didn’t try and approach it by denying himself food choices, he approached it by acknowledging that his body had nutritional needs and he had to add them to his diet to help his body.  Jon realised that if his body was to serve him well, he had to give it what it needed as well.

Jon’s observation of himself over that initial time was that his cravings were the same, but gradually he craved not only less food, but also craved more healthier food.  Currently if he’s hungry, he knows it’s for a reason and respects that, rather than judging it.  His tastes have been transformed now, preferring live foods to the things he used to crave so much of – empty calories that starved him of nutrients.  He acknowledged that no matter how much he ate previously, his body wasn’t getting nourishment because there was nothing in the food he was eating to nourish it….. he was starving nutritionally and it’s not surprising that he felt hungry a lot of the time (page xvii).

It’s been such a vicious cycle for me, as for others.  Being overweight with 3 young children I’m always on the go. So, I ate what was quick, often on the run.  This usually meant carb based food.  The fact that I got tired also meant reaching for the quick hit at 3pm ….. carb and sugar based usually!  So, the candida kicks in ……. and it loves to crave sugar to keep it going…… and the cycle continues.

My Plan …

My focus is to get my body to the point where it is free of the candida, plus following Jon’s lead and adding nutrients that it needs to be healthy.  I’m jumping ahead a bit here, but as per Jon’s suggestion, this month I am taking pro-biotics each day, digestive enzymes and omega-3 in the form of Krill Oil capsules (as well as linseeds, chia seeds).  Instead of taking an off-the-shelf multi-vitamin (with Vit E) that may not be right for me or assimilated by my body, I am doing hair analysis to find out what specific vitamins and minerals my body needs.  Then, with Dr Kitty Campion, we will look at what, if anything, I need.  Keep you posted.
What about you?
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Coping with Cravings and other Stuff

I met with my Homoeopath, Sally Moore, for a follow-up consult on Thursday.

Consultation with Sally Moore, Homoeopath

In reviewing the last month, it was pretty emotional with lots of tears early on (hence Sally prescribed Pulsatilla for me).  Since then things seem to have leveled out.  I got the impatient, short tempered monthly time, but other than that it felt relatively balanced (what a hoot, calling myself balanced …. there are some who would dispute it!).

During the Liver Cleanse I did however feel a bit tetchy and just wanting to sit down quietly on my own a couple of times – difficult to do when it happens at 7pm with a young family.  But, on one night I did it and let them sort themselves out!  Probably feeling a bit overwhelmed coping with all my own stuff as well as motherhood (and being a wife).

On listening to this story (and the rest of our discussion, including how the itchy bum is going), Sally prescribed:

  • One dose (on Friday) of Sepia 200c
  • 1 dose each day for 5 days of Candida 30c
  • I am to dowse with my pendulum whether Lachesis 200 or Sepia 200 is needed when my mood changes around my period time.
  • Keep up the Agnus Castus 6c on Monday – Friday during the month.

On Friday evening I was knackered and fell asleep on the couch at 7.30pm!  I had 9.5 hours sleep, absolutely sound sleep, feeling like I didn’t even turn over once!  Not even waking for a wee!  I must check if the remedy had a role there.

Weight and Body Measurements as Indicators

I’ve made a decision , in line with Jon Gabriel in The Gabriel Method, not to weigh myself (or that’s what I’m going to try to avoid).  Jon suggests to stay off the scales for the first 6 months, but knowing that my curiosity will get the better of me, I’ll just aim to weigh in a month’s time.

My measurements as of today are:

Neck 37cm  (was 38cm)

Bust 113cm (was 115cm)

Waist 97cm   (was 98cm)

Hips 121cm  (was 124cm)

Upper arm 38cm  (was 40cm)

Upper leg    80cm  (was 82cm)

Cravings and The Gabriel Method

Bit of an observation of the last couple of days ….. I have felt so hungry and so very susceptible to carb and chocolate cravings.  I seriously could have done some damage to chocolate cake, chocolate, pasta and bread in the last 2 days.  Am I getting on top of the Candid and it’s trying desperately not to have its stronghold released over my body!  Who knows!  All I know is this morning I woke up feeling better though.

So, for the record, I had a small heart shaped chocolate that K gave me at Easter (yes, it had stayed in my bag all that time – woo hoo!) and a  mouthful of chocolate cake (a small mouthful, not a Shrek sized one). I figured that if I fought the craving it would become bigger and a negative focus.  Instead I enjoyed what I had and didn’t beat myself up, also making sure to consciously add some vegies to afternoon tea to make sure my body had good nutrition.   This is a point that Jon Gabriel makes – don’t deprive yourself of a craving, just make sure your body still has the good nutrition it needs for the day.  Eventually your cravings will diminish, or so it goes …..

Take 2 on Meditation

Another plus for the last 3 days …. I got up and did 20 minutes of meditation before the family surfaced.  I really have to retrain my mind – too much chatter going on.  Might try focusing on a candle in the next one and see if that helps ……  Baby steps as always!
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Starting the Liver Cleanse…..

Saturday-Sunday, 24th-25th April, 2010

Liver Cleanse Preparation

On Saturday I started Day 1 of the Preparation Phase of the Liver Cleanse. This involves dissolving 1 teaspoon of Malic Acid in 1L of room temperature water. The concoction is then to be sipped 2 hours after eating (but not just before or at meal times, and not in the evening), drinking 1L each day for 6 days.

I had the choice to drink 1L of apple juice instead of the Malic Acid, but as I said in the last post, I didn’t want to have too much apple juice and then have my body have to cope with the sugar load. Also, I didn’t want to dent my weight loss efforts.

Well, I have to say that the Malic Acid tasted disgusting to start with (I got my quantities wrong in the first batch and put a tablespoon in! Duh!). Seriously ugly taste. When I tossed it and got the concentration correct though, it was not enjoyable, but you could drink it.

Taste aside, on Saturday evening I felt some discomfort in the area of my liver on my back. My guess is that it’s doing something already. Good enough for me to keep going.

I went to Andreas Mortiz’s website (www.ener-chi.com) and it has fantastic information, particularly in the FAQ section. Really timely. Note that Andreas Mortiz wrote the book ‘The Amazing Liver and Gallbladder Cleanse’ that describes the process I am going to follow in great detail.

While on the preparation stage of the Liver Cleanse I just need to watch what I eat and drink for the next 6 days:

  • Avoid cold or chilled foods (have warm or room temp food or beverages).
  • Avoid food from animal sources, dairy products and fried food items.
  • Avoid over-eating.

Conscious Chocolate Decision, But Was it Used as a Reward?

Honesty time – I forgot all about the animal / dairy product bit in the Liver Cleanse and had lamb chops and salad for dinner, followed by some yoghurt. I then consciously chose to have a cup of Bambu with milk (coffee substitute made from chicory, fig and barley) and a small Lindor chocolate egg. Man, I enjoyed that egg!

I was actually okay with eating the egg. I know I am eating really well and have been pretty good at controlling my emotional eating urges in the last few days. So, the decision to have a small chocolate was a conscious one and wasn’t the result of some external event or stressor. I felt good to eat a small chocolate in the guilt free manner of a thin person – Jon Gabriel would be proud!

Hhhmmmm, maybe though I need to think whether or not I saw the chocolate as a reward (given the way that I wrote the the 2nd sentence in the above paragraph). Aw heck, might need to sit with that one for a while! It’s all layers ……..

Heading Towards a Smaller Bra Size

Bit of news for Sunday……. I had to go in 2 sets of hooks on my bra! They were riding up my back and so I moved across to the next set of loops, only to find that I had to tighten them one more. Woo hoo!

I love the feeling of people recognising how much weight I’m losing. It really is so encouraging to get feedback. I think I’m becoming a compliment junkie at the moment!

I also love that my husband and kids re loving my new shape. It means so much to me to have my 10 year old say “I’m so proud of you Mum”. Lump in your throat stuff!
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Stinky Breath, Success and Support

Sunday, 10th April, 2010

Weighed in at 95Kg this morning! Another 0.5Kg down. I’ve been reading ‘The Gabriel Method’ by Jon Gabriel and one of the things he says is that as long as your body has reasons for being fat (and these can be largely – hee hee hee – emotional), you won’t have sustained, long term weight loss and healthy weight maintenance. Perhaps, given how rapidly the weight is coming off at the moment, my body has shifted into more of a state where it wants to be thin! How cool would that be!

Entertaining Success

I had a great day yesterday. It involved a bit of running around in the morning in preparation for 10 people coming over for dinner. Then some house cleaning and even time for a little afternoon sleep with the kids. Finally, the friends from University days came over and we had a really enjoyable dinner. The best part for me ….. I didn’t feel pressured into dessert or coffee / chocolates, nor did I feel like I was missing out. That was a huge change from last week. I was comfortable, actually comfortable!
Same today …… the day flowed with ease.

Preparing Salad in Advance

I learnt a valuable lesson though. When I make a salad in the evening, I should make a bigger bowl than usual and don’t dress it (people dress the salad as they put it on their plate). Any leftover salad makes it really easy for me at lunchtime the next day and eliminates the excuse of “not having enough time to make a salad”. It’s a strategy that works well for me.

Who Has Bad Breath? Can’t Blame it on the Dog…

One thing that did come up today was my husband gently letting me know that my breath was smelling ….. and it wasn’t fresh and minty!

Such a feeling of embarrassment even though it was said so lovingly. My dental hygiene is fine – brushing and flossing – so that wasn’t it. I remember reading something a long time ago that bad breath (halitosis) is something that can happen with weight loss. I just Googled it and found that it’s the ketones that form as a result of the breakdown of the fat (process of fat breakdown is called ketosis). So, bad breath is a sign that my body is breaking down fat. YIPPEE!

So, I looked up my “Illustrated Encyclopedia of Healing Remedies” and a couple of the things that might help are chewing cardamon, parsley, mint, thyme or tarragon. I’ve got cardamon and fresh herbs in the garden, so I’ll give it a go. Might put some mint sprigs into my water bottle too.

[Tried chewing cardamon seeds tonight - could only handle a couple of chews before spitting them out. But now, 30 minutes after, I’ve still got the cardamon flavour in my mouth.]

Change in Thinking – Benefits of Early Success and Support

Finally, I noticed a significant change that has evolved in my thinking. Previously my mindset was that weight loss was hard. Now having the early quick success in losing weight, it has allowed a mindset to flourish of “I lose weight quickly and with ease” and “Weight just falls off me”. So, for those embarking on a weight loss journey, having strategies for early success is great in helping to quickly create a more positive mindset.

The other thing that is great is having positive and supportive people around you. For example, I had a loving supportive call from my aunt in Melbourne (I’m in Perth on the other side of the country). She was just so encouraging and gave me feedback on the positive things other family members were saying. My Mum has been equally supportive, as has been my husband and 88 year old grandmother. It makes such a difference. The journey becomes more fun!
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You may speak your truth, but soothe your words with peace.

Tell your truth as soon as you know it. Yet tell it gently, kindly, and with compassion for the hearer. Someone needs to hear the truth from you … but that person
also needs your deep compassion as you speak it.

Seek to say what needs to be said with softness, and with a wide open heart. Remember, the truth can hurt … but it hurts a lot less if you care how it feels while
saying it.

Neale Donald Walsch
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